One of the reasons I became a therapist, and I say this proudly, is because my all-time favorite movie is The Prince of Tides  with Barbra Streisand. She was the coolest therapist I had ever seen. She cussed, she didn’t apologize for being direct, and yes, she even threw something at a client once. I remember thinking, yep, that’s the job for me. If I wasn’t going to be a prison guard, therapist was the natural next step. Period. There’s a line in that movie that I’ve always

This week someone said to me, “I just want to know why.” Why something happened. Why someone hurt them. Why life unfolded the way it did. And it stuck with me, because I’ve asked those same questions. Why did this happen? Why wasn’t I enough? Why was I pushed away? Why, why, why. The truth is, we don’t always get the answer to the “why.” And sometimes we do get an answer—and it’s so absolutely ridiculous, so shallow, so wrong—that we almost wish we never asked in the first p

Values are basically the invisible rules you live by. The stuff that decides:   whether you return your shopping cart, whether you apologize like a grown adult, or whether you just quietly blame the universe. They’re not fancy. They’re not complicated. But they matter… a lot.   Because here’s the deal: If your idea of “respect” is “we talk things out,” and their idea of “respect” is “I go silent for six days and expect you to read my mind,” you’re not in a relationship — you’

A couple weeks ago, I had this brilliant idea for a post — at least, I thought it was brilliant — and I started writing about the “Let Them Theory.” In my heart of hearts, I was convinced the whole thing was complete bullshit. Like… cute idea, but absolutely not rooted in reality. And then the universe, which clearly loves to humble me, started flooding all my social media with takes, videos, and articles about the Let Them Theory. So I dug in. And holy. shit. I was wrong. (A